I, unfortunately, can relate to them, not to sound cocky, but because I am one of those guys who gives everything to the woman and because I am one of those guys who has been beaten down.
That's bad news.
Before I continue, I'm not looking for pity or for an "aww", because I have had some great relationships (those girls know exactly who they are and the place they hold in my heart). I am just here to present a case of a man having his heart broken and having the balls to admit it.
I was recently in a relationship (more like dating friendship), if you can call it that, where drama took over and ran the outcome. Unfortunately, once again, I got walked on. I gave my heart, my soul and my being for the opportunity to have the best relationship of my life - but as time told, it was all a dream, a timeline that was built on falsities and question marks.
Again, I was walked on, and walked on, and walked on - you get the picture.
I went searching for that girl who would make my happiness the most important thing in the entire world. I searched for that girl who looked great outside and in. And when I thought I had found her, I realized she was fake - a fake person, a fake reality. But, this situation, in some odd way was great for me. It taught me so many life lessons that I am now a better person, better friend and better man for it. I have become Mr. Picky for the first time in my life and have realized something that very few of my friends have - that I don't need a significant other right now to feel happiness. I am Mr. Independent.
The girl who didn't kill me made me stronger. Rather the girls who haven't killed me have made me stronger. It wasn't just one situation that helped me understand the true value in selective love, but rather a collaboration of several different situations. I now know what I want in a girlfriend. I know all the qualities I long for. I know what type of woman it will take to win my heart now.
So, when my girlfriends tell me about how the man of their dreams came in the door and left through the back - I completely understand. But I am now much more educated an experienced in telling them that things do get better, things do turn around. You may have to get beaten down several times before realizing this, but if you stay optimistic through the bad times - good will come from this. You will jump back on your feet and all those beatings will help you find yourself even more and slow life down a bit.
Before now, I was one of those relationship guys headed directly for marriage. I was ready for that step, but I am happy to admit that after taking a good look in the mirror I have slowed myself down. I am taking my time, living life, and loving my independence. Love can wait, but I am ready for it when it arrives.
