The very worst pickup line a man can use is, “You are so beautiful I just had to come over and talk to you.” A. She already knows she’s beautiful. B. She hears it ten times a day. And C. She’s immediately put on the defensive. Similarly, a woman should try something other than, “You’re so hot I just had to talk to you.” This line kills the mystery and presents no challenge.
The next time you’re out, try something like, “Excuse me, is this seat taken? My name is (fill in the blank.) What’s your name?” Then, if the person seems friendly, grab his or her attention by talking about something in the moment. Discuss the atmosphere, the drinks at the bar, or the band that’s playing, rather than grilling about the past or interviewing about the future. Also, make sure your intentions are clear.
Men, don’t wait more than five minutes before casually asking if she has a boyfriend. A lot of women (especially tipsy ones) feel obligated to be friendly, even if they have no interest in you whatsoever.
Ladies, if you’re not interested, don’t wait more than thirty seconds to mention your boyfriend (real or imaginary.) Don’t waste the poor guy’s time.
As you talk to your new friend, don’t worry about how you look or whether or not he/she likes you. The insecurity will show on your face, and is a major turn-off. Just enjoy yourself.
Guys, direct eye contact and smiling are NOT a go-ahead to kiss the girl. A lot of people (myself included) do this naturally with everyone they talk to. The easiest way to gage her interest is to scoot in close. If she jumps away, you know it’s a lost cause. But if she looks up at you and smiles, it’s safe to move in- slowly. Let there be a nice buildup. Of course you’re nervous, but don’t just close your eyes and plant one on her.
Here’s a good rule of thumb: Don’t use “lines” on anyone. Don’t insult his or her intelligence. And never treat someone like a sexual prey. Instead, show an interest in the person’s mind. Let them a wonder a little about the sex part. Use subtle body language to show your attraction - a wink, a nudge, or a pat on the arm, as opposed to a slap on the ass. Don’t throw yourself at your potential mate. In the initial meeting, half of the fun is in the mystery (wink).
