First dates typically go like this: awkward hellos, small talk, someone spills a drink, a fork goes flying, someone says something dumb, which they sadly attempt to recant, a polite argument over the check and several trips to the bathroom either to check your hair or to call a friend to engage “the emergency phone call.”

Maybe you click on the first date, and maybe you won’t. Don’t give up so easily and risk the possibility of throwing a perfectly good fish back into the sea.   Maybe you just need to get to know one another better, in a more relaxed atmosphere that could take the shape of a second date. 

Oooohhhh!  The second date: only reserved for those lucky few who make it through the initial screening phase.  It’s true that there are many first date combinations that should just be left at the restaurant or bar and forgotten about in the cab ride home. However, there are those instances when you need to be a bit less judgmental about the situation. I mean, really, how well do you know one another? 

We’ve already establish that first dates blow! Knowing this, we must be able to give one another a break and risk the second date. Why? Because you’re already familiar with the person, you’ve sat through an uncomfortable, or comfortable, first date and now it’s time to really get to know one another. My theory is the second date is actually the make or break date. 

At this point you’re already feeling relaxed because you know this person better than when you first met. By the second date you have a clearer vision of what the other person looks like, an idea of their likes and dislikes, whether they have a sense of humor, what you have in common. So now, you can dig into the good stuff. 

This is when you can get down to business of figuring out if you can see this person in your life and in what role (friend, boyfriend/girlfriend or not at all). More reasonable human beings consider this being fair. After all, everyone deserves a second chance. The second date can either help you can feel comfortable knowing you didn’t let a good fish get away, or make you realize you should have thrown them back into Lake Michigan after the first date.

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